People who look for one-on-one language classes are usually talkative by nature. They prefer the exclusive and focused environment the classes allow them to have and enjoy the full hour of “me time”. But once in a blue moon there comes a student who for some reason – convenience, for example, maybe she thinks she can better profit from individual lessons, despite her overbearing shyness. She isn’t wrong, she may be shy but she can control her shyness and develop her language skills. Honestly I wouldn’t recommend a glass of wine at 8 in the morning, to control her shyness. But that might help.
But what is she telling me with her silence?
1. I’m hearing but I’m not listening
2. Please don’t put me on the spot. I don’t want to make the effort to think,
3. Please be patient with me… even if you think I’m not trying my best
4. I need some time before I answer …
5. I don’t care about whatever theme you’ve chosen for today’s lesson.
What can I do?
1. Lighten up the mood
2. Use a puppet … what the heck! she’s an adult but since she still won’t speak at least I can talk to the puppet.
3. Never force them to respond
4. Allow them to be the expert – talk about what gives them passion. Do you have an Instagram account? Share a picture you like there
5. Praise mistakes – because at least they’re trying.